Even before the release of the youth version of For Women Only, I did many events for college and high school groups. All the “relationship” talks can be tailored for the youth market. In addition, these two talks have been specifically fine-tuned for a younger audience.
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understanding how guys think (a talk for youth)
Based on the research and national survey of guys age 15-20 for the book For Young Women Only, this fun, fascinating talk opens the eyes of teenage girls to how guys are wired, and challenges them toward healthy patterns of relating now while they are young. The talk is entirely about what guys said about themselves, and really want girls to know. Although Shaunti is a married wife and mom in her late thirties, she’s really an ambassador for teenage guys, conveying their words - not hers - to the girls in the audience. Topics include how much guys wish girls wouldn’t trigger a visual struggle by how they dress (see ‘dress code’ topic), how they feel about the emotional consequences of sex before marriage, how discerning and wary they are of the “mean girls” dynamic among teenage girls, how secretly sensitive they are, and how much they just want girls to be themselves. This talk is effective either as:
- A co-ed or girls-only youth event
- A co-ed or girls-only interview with a male youth pastor or group leader (similar to the “pastoral interview” format described for the Understanding Men talk, above).
- Co-ed or girls-only events or chapel services at schools and colleges
Note: Shaunti’s fellow researcher and author on this book is Lisa Rice, who is also a mother of teenagers and is speaking more frequently to youth audiences. Read more information about Lisa as a speaker and see clips of her ?interview format’ talk with a youth pastor, here.
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why do we have a dress code? moving from resenting the rules, to agreeing with the reasons
A talk for any group that wants to go beyond the “rules” and help young women understand the reasons why modesty and care in dress are so critical. This talk is only appropriate for girls to hear, as it is quite direct (although age-appropriate) about how visually-wired guys are and the fact that immodest dress can cause an unwanted struggle in even the most careful, devout guy. All claims are backed up by compelling, even shocking statistics from three nationally-representative surveys of men and teenage boys about what they are thinking when they are confronted with immodest dress. The goal of this talk is to leave girls wanting to dress appropriately, internalizing the reasons for themselves. Targeted for:
- Girls-only events at schools, colleges, youth events or churches
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