Lin
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| 06/27/2011 3:47 PM |
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when is it a good age to start dating someone? |
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Drake
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| 06/27/2011 4:49 PM |
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| In my family its 15. For the girl I like its 16. Which is probably the rigjt age for people. Any younger and i think the people would be too immature. I'm sure there are tons of people who agree with me. Just listen to what your parents say. You probably will dissagree with all th3y say but sometimes they are right. Think about it. Especially for that guy in your other post. |
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"For god so loved the world that he gave his one and only son. That whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life." Bible.
"For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of god". Bible.
"Use your head to show your heart what you truly want." Aaron Ward.
Do not just look on one side of the tree that you see for good apples but also look on the other for you may find the best where you aren't looking." Aaron Ward.
"Don't try to gather all apples off a tree to compare them. For that will take forever. Rather just look and see so that you find the perfect one rather than going through many to be dissapointed." Aaron Ward. |
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clare
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| 06/28/2011 1:35 PM |
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in my family it's 20 I dated someone at 18 1/2 (rebellious phase) and looking back I wouldn't let my kid date any younger than 18 and even at 18 I'd be pretty cautious. The younger you date, the more you are controlled my hormones, and like it or not 14, 15, 16yr olds are really not very mature! I was mature for my age all my life but wow I'm 6 weeks away from 21 and 6 weeks away from my wedding and there is no way I would of been ready for a serious relationship while in my teens. (including 19  )
with all that said, it depends on how mature you are and what your parent's rules are. |
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Drake
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| 06/28/2011 3:12 PM |
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| I agree. But for me this girl fits all things i look for. I think with my head as well as my heart. |
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"For god so loved the world that he gave his one and only son. That whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life." Bible.
"For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of god". Bible.
"Use your head to show your heart what you truly want." Aaron Ward.
Do not just look on one side of the tree that you see for good apples but also look on the other for you may find the best where you aren't looking." Aaron Ward.
"Don't try to gather all apples off a tree to compare them. For that will take forever. Rather just look and see so that you find the perfect one rather than going through many to be dissapointed." Aaron Ward. |
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clare
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| 06/28/2011 5:32 PM |
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depends on what you want from dating. if you just want to have a good time or if you want a serious relationship and thinking about marriage. I'm not putting anyone down for how they do things. I've just been around the block and i know when you're my age you're most likely going to think the same way I do  |
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Drake
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| 06/28/2011 5:58 PM |
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| Maybe. Just that with a girl like this you gotta move fast at a good time. Else she will go with someone else and I don't want that.. I know what I'm doing though and I plan to go slow and not rush her. Or her parents. She's allowed to go out bext year and I plan to take her to the movies. Nothing too seriose. But hey. As long as we are both mature about it it should be fine. |
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"For god so loved the world that he gave his one and only son. That whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life." Bible.
"For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of god". Bible.
"Use your head to show your heart what you truly want." Aaron Ward.
Do not just look on one side of the tree that you see for good apples but also look on the other for you may find the best where you aren't looking." Aaron Ward.
"Don't try to gather all apples off a tree to compare them. For that will take forever. Rather just look and see so that you find the perfect one rather than going through many to be dissapointed." Aaron Ward. |
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clare
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| 06/28/2011 6:31 PM |
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Just that with a girl like this you gotta move fast at a good time. Else she will go with someone else and I don't want that.
both my ex's said that about me and it wasn't long and I had them kicked no the next state not that the girl you like will do that. Like you said, no pushing (rushing) |
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JoJo
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| 06/29/2011 7:41 AM |
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Drake, just one thing I will say... sometimes we tend to think we've found the exact right person who ticks all the boxes.... and sometimes we're wrong... not to say you're wrong, but i've been exactly in your situation, and I thought I'd finally found "the one" and I wanted to marry him... long story short, i found out he'd got engaged to someone and is now married... and i was devistated... and it took me a while to move on, cuz I couldn't stop picturing my life with him... I had to learn to start re examining how I looked at my relationships and to not get carried away in the moment...
for myself, at 22, i'm still figuring out stuff... and I SO don't think even 2 years ago, that I could have dated someone the right way, I was naive and had no clue and would have done stupid stuff...
my point is, and i always say this, Dating is the 1 step towards marriage, and that should technically be the ONLY reason to date. so if you're at an age you can actually get married, or can see marriage in the near future as an option, and know you'll be able to provide a living for a family etc etc etc, then that's a good age to date haha
and in saying that, I'm just meaning, you need to think everything through, cuz dating is MORE than just having a bf/gf status... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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darcie.wada
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| 06/29/2011 9:55 PM |
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Clare hit the spot! 
(I love you, Clare!) |
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Drake
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| 06/30/2011 9:36 AM |
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| And I agree. But i have a it of boxes, she ticked them all, I cant get over her and you know the whole thing it usually is. That's why I plan to go steady and try nit to do anything stupid at my age. The only thing im not completely worried about is funnily the parents. But i plan to do things right the first time and reading the book fymo has helped. I have a page on the forums where um talking about this stuff if you want to read more. |
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"For god so loved the world that he gave his one and only son. That whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life." Bible.
"For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of god". Bible.
"Use your head to show your heart what you truly want." Aaron Ward.
Do not just look on one side of the tree that you see for good apples but also look on the other for you may find the best where you aren't looking." Aaron Ward.
"Don't try to gather all apples off a tree to compare them. For that will take forever. Rather just look and see so that you find the perfect one rather than going through many to be dissapointed." Aaron Ward. |
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Nicole
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| 07/05/2011 11:04 PM |
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Commenting yet again on the subject of dating
In a nutshell (since I have a couple other posts on this subject): I personally think a good dating age for girls is about 17. Why? Because at that age a girl is more likely to understand what being in a relationship is about vs. dating at a younger age when you're not going to be as serious. Sorry guys, but my main point has to do with maturity levels. |
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whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect -Mark Twain |
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Drake
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| 07/06/2011 3:06 AM |
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| Well I agree with you mostly but it really depends on the maturity of the two. And I know what I'm doing and I plan to go slow and not rush like i said. I mean i already waited three years for her and I can wait one more cause that's when her dad said she was allowed. And its mostly to get to know her, be friends and if it worked out (hopefully ) then maybe ill think about marriage. For now and for me its 15/16. |
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"For god so loved the world that he gave his one and only son. That whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life." Bible.
"For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of god". Bible.
"Use your head to show your heart what you truly want." Aaron Ward.
Do not just look on one side of the tree that you see for good apples but also look on the other for you may find the best where you aren't looking." Aaron Ward.
"Don't try to gather all apples off a tree to compare them. For that will take forever. Rather just look and see so that you find the perfect one rather than going through many to be dissapointed." Aaron Ward. |
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JoJo
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| 07/06/2011 6:36 AM |
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just to point out something I think us older girls left out...
Drake, we're not getting at you about you haha... i think it may have come across like that.
We are speaking generally... and it applies to most people... there are the few exceptions when it does work out from a younger age, but like I say... it's a very few... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Beckah
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| 07/06/2011 6:33 PM |
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| My sister is going to be 20 soon. and as of 2 weeks ago, she is now in a courting relationship. She has never dated or courted. It just goes to show... that when your ready then your ready. there is no dating age. BUT i must say 15 is still a bit young, so when your mature enough then thats up to you. Make sense?? |
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"Check yourself before you wreck yourself" |
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Lin
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| 07/08/2011 9:16 PM |
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Well my dating age is 16... for the guy he doesn't have one...lol
but he has waited for me all school year and I really do think we have somthing special, but we definitly have a few things that we need to mature about.
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clare
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| 07/09/2011 12:41 AM |
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Even if someone "checks all your boxes" it doesn't mean they're the one. I was seriously in love with one guy for 2 years he was everything I wanted. All my "boxes" might have been checked but even then God showed me the hard way what I want is not what He wants.
I'm not trying to pick you you Drake |
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JoJo
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| 07/09/2011 1:08 AM |
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yeah I second Clare on that! and she probably knows what I'm talking about
yeah, my last dabble at a steady relationship, he ticked all my boxes... but WAWA WAAAA... didn't work out. I can be ok and laugh about it now, but at the time it really sucked... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Drake
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| 07/09/2011 9:59 AM |
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| Don't worry I'm not offended or anything in fact im glad to hear your opinions. Sometimes things will work other times it won't. Just gotta maje sure you know all the faxts before you go into it. |
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"For god so loved the world that he gave his one and only son. That whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life." Bible.
"For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of god". Bible.
"Use your head to show your heart what you truly want." Aaron Ward.
Do not just look on one side of the tree that you see for good apples but also look on the other for you may find the best where you aren't looking." Aaron Ward.
"Don't try to gather all apples off a tree to compare them. For that will take forever. Rather just look and see so that you find the perfect one rather than going through many to be dissapointed." Aaron Ward. |
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Nicole
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| 07/13/2011 12:28 AM |
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| Oh right! Sorry! Yes thank you Jo! I'm not here on the forums to attack anyone. What I post is pretty much my own opinion and/or what I agree with, and anyone is free to disagree, argue, etc with me. |
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whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect -Mark Twain |
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Filia Domini
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| 08/04/2011 5:19 PM |
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| In my opinion, 17 is a good age to start dating. My parents believe that teenagers shouldn't date until they're 18. There are definitely advantages to waiting until you're older to date. Primarily, waiting gives you a chance to gain maturity and emotional security, which are important to have in dating relationships. |
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