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Tarstt
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| 07/12/2010 3:02 PM |
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Hi I've been married 19 years and through all this time my DH has been verbally abusive at times. In the last two years I can't go a weekend without being degraded or argued with and I've gotten to the place where I'm just plain fed up! DH also has a terrible temper and breaks things when he gets angry. Fed up of feeling bad and crying and trying again over and over. It seems like I'm the only one working on the marriage. I'm reading the book FWO and I find it very insightful as well as frustrating. It seems to make a point that all we have to do is to make the man feel good about himself and nothing of his responsibility to act in a loving manner to his wife. I have ask him to go to marriage counseling several times which he refuses time after time. I haven't been totally 100% respectful throughout our marriage and have made amends for this when I haven't been. My DH's refusal to even work on the marriage is really bothering me. I guess I've come just about to the end of my rope. I'm still going to finish reading the book and put into practice the rest of it. I guess my question is when is enough, enough. Does God really want me in a relationship where I get hurt time after time.
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Lori
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| 08/19/2010 11:21 PM |
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Hey Tarstt,
I'm sorry that you are going through a difficult time. I pray that God will give you a word of encouragement. God doesn't want for you to be going through an abusive marriage. He wants for you and your husband to love each other and to submit to EACH OTHER. Remember that no matter what mean things your husband says about you...they're not what God thinks of you. He thinks you are beautiful and are worth so much!
I guess my advice for you would be to seek out the help of a christian counselor, even if you have to go by yourself. She/he will be able to give you advice on how to deal with your husband. And also, most of all, talk to God about it. Every day, out load! Let Him hear your pain and your heart and I promise you that you will hear his.
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steph6246
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| 09/07/2010 7:17 AM |
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Hi Tarstt,
I've been married for 4 years, and the last two have rocketed between high-as-a-kite happy to receiving verbal abuse, and little space in between. It's taken a LOT of prayer, and even taking some days away from my husband for him to realize that I won't take that. Wives should submit to their husbands, but that doesn't mean we are slaves. We are in the midst of starting Christian counseling, and I'm praying that it will help both of us. And as Lori said, go by yourself if you have to. Sometimes that third objective person can help shift your viewpoint, give you a fresh perspective, or just give you hope.
Praying for you and your husband. |
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nesewig
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| 09/10/2010 11:44 AM |
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| You are not the only one that this is happening to. I am in the same boat. I never know what will trigger his anger. He has never physically abused me, but he completely withdraws and is rude. Since he refuses to go to counseling, I have made arrangements to go on my own. All you can do is pray and have those around you pray for you also.
You will also be in my thoughts and prayers. |
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