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JustaguyUser is Offline

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07/30/2009 6:04 PM  

I've been reading many threads over the last few weeks, many of them give me hope and joy, others burden me and I share their pain.

Which brings me to making this statement:  If my situation and gettting it turned around depends on ME, my wife and I are doomed!!

Now, before you think I'm just giving up here, think about it.  The entire Old Testament shows us that it is humanly impossible to live up to, or adhere to, a set of rules or requirements that is imposed on us even by the Almighty God, let alone our earthly relationships!

Thank God that's where the Person of Christ comes in!  Christ as my savior lives within me, enabling me to do what He's leading me to do.  Does this mean that I am perfect?  Absolutely not!  I fail constantly.  But I am learning that the reason I fail is because I'm out of tune with God's will in my life.  The more I spend time getting to know my personal savior through His Word and prayer, the more success I have in my Christian life!

"I have been crucified with Christ; and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself up for me."  Gal 2:20
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08/04/2009 12:02 AM  
I think you are headed in the right direction. Your words are so true. "The more I spend time getting to know my personal savior through His Word and prayer, the more success I have in my Christian life!" My family has found, when we let life take us away from the Lord we can see a significant difference and we are in a huge hurry to get back to where we belong. Hang in there we will be praying for you and the Lord will be walking with you the whole way.
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07/01/2011 2:11 PM  
My husband & I are having a really difficult time too- he has basically given up on our marriage & wants out because there is "some part of your personality I just am not interested in anymore"- whatever that means. He has totally seperated from the man-of-God that I met & fell in love with- he has told me and admitted that a lot of his resentment & unhappiness comes from his not taking action in what God's plan for him is- not doing God's work, etc. So instead he has just given up because he doesn't "feel like" putting any effort to repair our relationship. I am so lost on how to help him...

Just a Guy- What helped you get your mind back to God's hand in your relationship? I don't know how to get through to my husband- it's like he blocks out anything I have to say about putting God back in our marriage!

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07/04/2011 3:35 PM  
One of the greatest mysteries that I know of is human relationships. One of the most painful experiences a person can ever go through is witnessing their dearest relationship start to crumble. The thing that makes it so difficult, is that we are quite often totally unable to get through to the person what we can so clearly see is wrong.

The older I get, the more thankful I am that this is true!!

Don't get me wrong, in no way am I trying to trivialize what you are going through, and I am most certainly not trying to tell you that you are doing anything wrong. There is simply no way anyone can know in 160 words or so what the problem could be, or how to solve it.

What I do know is that there is only one person in the world whom we can truly influence their decision and how they behave. Ourselves.

It isn't until we go before God and are thankful for the very things in our lives that are causing us pain and anguish, that we get in tune with the will of God. And why wouldn't we? What do we have to lose? ...Everything! Which is exactly what God is asking of us, that we would give everything up and follow Him. That doesn't mean we turn our backs on anything that is dear to us. On the contrary, it is those times when we need to love and pray for those that are pulling away from us, but we begin to recognize that it is only going to be the Holy Spirit that touches and convicts the wayward into holy submission.

mjane48, my heart aches for you and your husband because I can hear in your words that you were once a couple that desired to live for Christ. No one can know for sure why your husband seems to be giving up on his Christian Life. Satan has many, many ways to deceive us into thinking we're not worth it, or we've done too much for God to forgive. Sometimes, it's even the despair of knowing we've lost touch with Jesus Christ that causes us to turn away (if you can figure that one out...).

God loves us unconditionally, which is why His love is more powerful than anything. The problem is, sometimes we can't see that love until we've hit rock bottom...
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