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inotnewUser is Offline

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07/31/2008 4:31 PM  
For years I have watched what I ate, exercised and tried to improve myself. Yet, my husband sits around in front of the tv or computer and eats. I found it so discoraging, I gave up. I have often worried about his heath and have told him so. I would love to get back into it, and I know I need to for me, but I need to have some way of explaining this to my husband, so he understands what I feel and am going through. I would like to have him as a partner in this. Any suggestions?
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07/31/2008 8:04 PM  
Maybe you can't get him to go to a support group, but you can go and be an example.  And maybe you can't force him into counseling, but you can also go.

And with the help of that counselor, you can try to find a way to reach him, or set an ultimatum.

I agree, though.  It's got to change.

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LeeUser is Offline

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11/05/2008 8:27 AM  
And what? Perhaps destroy what marriage you have? You can encourage, but you cannot change another person.
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11/11/2008 7:39 PM  
Exactly my point.
You can only encourage and lead by example.

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11/14/2008 2:24 PM  
People often use food as an escape. Find out of he is "truly" hungry all the time, or if it's about something deeper.

I grew up in a family who had poor eating habits. It wasn't until recently that I have been able to get my weight under control. Bad habits are hard to break... The first step is identifying that there's a problem.
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01/29/2009 2:31 PM  

Do what you have to do for yourself and as others have said, lead by example. Explain to him why this means so much to you and maybe throw in that you are trying to look better for him as well as for yourself. You can also just start cooking healthy meals with simple substitutions like brown rice or whole wheat pasta and he won't know the difference. It may not be easy but you are trying to do the right thing and this is for the long run. Your health is so important. Good job.

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