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Susanne L.
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| 08/29/2011 3:44 PM |
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| My husband and I are reading the books. His first comment on them was that HIS book stated that the concepts in these books would only work if both partners believe in and serve Jesus Christ.
I was raised in a Catholic household where I felt very abused by the whole concept of Jesus. As an adult, through twelve step recovery, I have rediscovered a belief in God and serve Him every day. I adamantly do not call my God "Jesus" - because that is not how I understand him.
I wonder if this concept is going to be a deal breaker for us. Anyone else have any experience with or suggestions about this? |
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Susanne L.
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| 08/30/2011 8:22 PM |
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| I see 71 views of this post and not one reply - please help, folks! |
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Peace
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| 09/02/2011 10:48 AM |
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Hi Susanne,
I can't say I have much experience here, but since no one else has answers, I figured I could at least give you my thoughts. There are two parts to your question that I'd like to respond to. First, you asked whether the concepts would only work if both people are followers of Christ. It's been a while since I read the books, so I can't remember for sure whether any of the concepts are strictly Christ-centered, but for the most part, the concepts will work for anyone, if you ask me. Most concepts that will enhance a healthy relationship can be implemented in just about any household.
However, I think that the fact that you are so vehemently against Jesus is going to be a much harder hurdle. If your husband is truly set on following Christ, he should not divorce you, because the Bible gives no grounds for divorcing over a difference of faith. But I do think it will make attaining true intimacy much more difficult. For me, and for many Christians, my whole identity is wrapped up in my relationship with Christ. And for me personally, if my husband did not believe in Him, I would not feel that he truly understood who I am. In that respect, the concepts may not "work" - that is, they may not work to their full potential.
I'm so sorry for the experience you went through in your childhood. Whoever it is that used the name of Christ to hurt you was absolutely wrong, and I believe with all my heart that Christ's own heart breaks for what you have been through. But I'd like to ask you to simply consider whether the actions of that person(s) matched the description of Christ given in the Bible. I don't know whether you've read the Bible much since rediscovering your belief in God, but it's possible that there is much to be gained by seeking to understand who your husband believes Christ to be. It might be worth it to read through the Gospel of John or Luke, just so you can see a bit more of what your husband sees in Him. At the very least, it would be a sign of goodwill toward him. Anyway, just something to consider. I'll be praying for you. |
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Angela
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| 09/10/2011 4:19 PM |
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| I agree with the advice "Peace" gave you. I will pray the holy spirit works with you and will give you the courage to discover who Christ is. It will please God, and your husband. John 14:23 "Jesus answered and said to him, 'If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our home with him.'" Although you may not see it now, having a Christ-centered home is extremely important (if you have some time watch gccwired.com, it is my church about family and Christ involvement). God says if you seek Him, you will find him. Maybe soon you will be able to know who Christ is, and understand why our relationship with him is so important for us to have a relationship with God (Jesus says none may enter heaven except thru Him, because He will plead with God for our sakes). I believe if you ask your husband to help you on your journey of exploring Christ, you will see him light up. God bless, and I hope you may see the truth, and read to Word, and not be blinded by the past. I will pray for you. |
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