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Dave
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| 12/18/2008 3:59 PM |
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We've agreed we won't get pregnant again, due to health issues. We love kids, and may consider adopting, but bearing another is out of the question.
Prior to marriage, and prior to wife's health issues, I made it clear that "if it ain't broke, I'm not getting it fixed."
My side is: I waited ~30 years, I can wait another ~30. I won't insult God's handiwork by visiting a Doctor and instructing Him to change the design for the sake of some pleasure - nor will I encourage her to get fixed.
My wife's side is: God created us to enjoy each other - get fixed, 'cause nothing else is 100% effective - and I'm not getting fixed due to health issues.
So now, let's just say abstinence is proving highly effective, but not very fun.
There are other issues that need resolution before any fun happens, but I'd like to come to the table with some win-win alternatives.
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giddyupngo
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| 01/12/2009 1:00 AM |
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I have a verse for you,
"No one who has been emasculated by crushing or cutting may enter the assembly of the LORD. " Deuteronomy 23:1
It sounds like the health issues make having another child seem impossible or dangerous, but sterilization is not the way to go. You are right, you are God's handiwork, and while it is okay for animals, I believe it is offensive to God to get a vasectomy.
Secondly, vasectomies are not 100% effective. There are many tests and sperm counts to make sure the surgery worked. I know personally of people who have had the surgery, but are still "capable of fatherhood". Thirdly, the men are expected to produce "samples" for the lab to test. The way these samples are produced is unbiblical.
I suggest you both take a Natural Family Planning Class, and practice periodic abstinence. It has come a long way over the years, and is proven to be 99% effective in spacing children. It doesn't cost anything, no one has to take pills or hormones, and there are no side effects. There is always the possibility your wife would conceive, but there is also the possibility complete abstinence will damage your marriage. If it is not dangerous for your wife to carry a child, and it is the raising of a child that would be difficult/impossible, there is always adoption. I will pray for your situation, that God gives you wisdom and peace during this trial.
In Christ,
Dave
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