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arnw117
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| 02/21/2010 9:32 AM |
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| This seems to be a problem that many singles struggle with. I know that my experiences in this area have been limited for various reasons. I feel like I am stuck in my teenage years using those times as a frame of reference. As a mature adult, the same rules do not always apply as they did when I was a teenager. The boys that I knew were interested in me back then would act silly and tease and try to impress. The men I meet now have moved beyond those tactics and I find it difficult to read the signs. I have not dated at all and the story is too long to put here, but I am at a point where I want to be more intentional in my encouragement of the men who may be interested. I don't want to go around asking every single man I meet if they are interested, so you see my problem. I know there is no cookie cutter answer. The other part to the question is: Is it the same for Christian men"? They seem to be more reserved and cautious making it even more difficult to read the signs. Help!!! |
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Travis
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| 02/24/2010 5:38 PM |
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Well....I can't say I struggle with the same thing since I a male and I have enough confidence to not even bother if they're interested in or not (I'm still going to get them mentality), but I would say this...
Don't look. Don't bother seeing if they're interested or not. It's up in God's hands. If we try to strive for something other than glorifying God, then we will have difficult times with what we are looking for.
If a man is really following the Lord, and is not intentionally looking for a relationship, then he will most likely let whoever know that he is not looking for a relationship right now.
Does this make since?
To give you an example in my life, right now I'm trying die to my desire to be in a relationship. And that when the time is right, God will let me know if He has someone for me or not. The problem I have is I am interested in this girl, and I can tell she is interested in, but I should tell her that I'm not looking right now. That doesn't mean I'm not interested, its just that I need to follow the Lord in every aspect of my life.
Please let me know if any of this helps. If not, please let me know.
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~And in the end, The love you take
Is equal to the love you make~ |
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JoeMS
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| 03/02/2010 8:47 PM |
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| Is a friendship developing? I think we can initially be looking for romantic "chemistry" but deeper parts of the relationship are more important for a lasting relationship. |
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