goldie
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| 08/09/2009 12:15 AM |
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| After losing weight, as a single middle aged woman I was mistreated by men and then some of it gained it back. For example, breaking up with guys dating me who were just hoping for free sex including degrading sexual acts, while getting away with lying, cheating and other disrespectful behavior. I was shocked to learn that other women were letting them get away with this stuff! For example, men looking at me lecherously in public and making me feel very uncomfortable. For example, married guys talking to me about how I looked using words that are used to describe porn stars. Yuck! I would rather be fat and ignored. |
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Angie
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| 08/23/2009 6:08 PM |
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| I can understand how you feel. I think men have the 'virgin' or '****' view of women and they categorise women in this way. A man will think he did well if he marries a virgin but not even seriously consider marrying a woman who could be viewed as a '****' (particularly if other men know her). Because you are an attractive unmarried middle aged women, men automatically assume you are not a virgin but making yourself available to men. You could try wearing a wedding ring in public to see if there is a different reaction from men - to see if they are more respectful towards you. In their eyes you will then be a 'married' attractive middle aged woman - and therefore all the more desirable. |
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Julie Fidler
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| 08/23/2009 10:50 PM |
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Goldie -
Not trying to insult here, but do you mind if I ask how you normally dress? Do you have any sexual abuse in your past? You don't have to answer publicly (or at all) but the reason I ask is... I was sexually abused throughout most of my childhood and for years into my adulthood it seemed like I was a magnet for pervert men who would say/do disgusting and degrading things to me. There's more to it than that, but first I figured I'd ask...
-Julie
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JoeMS
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| 12/22/2009 3:24 PM |
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That is a good question about "dress." It might be normal for a woman who just lost weight to want to proudly display that. Unfortunately guys will too often be "triggered" by that. She is also more likely to attract a male who is a sex addict rather than the kind of guy who would make a good friend and husband.
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