JoeMS
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| 01/07/2010 12:24 PM |
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Thanks for the post J82. There are ways to naturally and safely boost the hormone levels a bit.
Dr. Erika Schwartz would be a good resource for women. Besides her web site she has many podcasts on the net and a radio show. http://www.drerika.com/
A doctor might, after testing, put a guy on a bit of one of the adrenal hormones that the body naturally uses to make the sex hormones. That is what my doc did. If you get the results I did, your wife will actually find you more handsome and attractive when you take the supplements! I don't understand it but I like the results!
Also I have had issues with motivation and energy levels in the late afternoon and evenings since I got Lyme disease many years ago. Previous to that as a youth and in my twenties I had plenty of motivation and energy. I also found, with the help of my chiropractor/nutritionist, supplements for the thyroid. The product "Thyroid Helper" has been very effective for the past few years. http://www.wellnessresources.com/products/thyroid_helper.php They have podcasts available too.
I don't recommend that people self-medicate. Many doctors don't mess with supplements. My doctor is a member of the Institute of Functional Medicine. These doctors are less likely to quickly write a prescription and send you out the door. They have a way to search for a member doctor in your area. http://www.functionalmedicine.org/about/whatis.asp. |
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Jacqs82
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| 01/07/2010 12:32 PM |
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!! just to clarify I am a female!!!!!
I started my menopause age 38, will be 50 this year and am still not completely done with it.
My GP put me on HRT because of the debilitating symptoms I was suffering... the HRT robbed me of the sight of one of my eyes, so I will never be able to take hormone boosting drugs again.
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JoeMS
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| 01/07/2010 2:44 PM |
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I am very sorry to hear about your eye sight.
You will therefore probably appreciate Dr Erika's podcasts and advise. She is not fond of the HRT drugs either. She is a very strong proponent of bioidentical products--they are not made from horse urine but rather bioidentical to a human female's hormones.
http://www.power-surge.com/transcripts/schwartz4.htm
This was both informative and entertaining! It addresses a number of issues brought up in this thread.
Change Your Hormones, Change Your Brain, Transform Your Relationships 2 CD Set
http://www.amenclinics.com/store/index.php?main_page=product_info&products_id=216
There are two good articles on bioidenticals in a recent issue of Life Extension magazine.
http://www.lef.org/magazine/mag2009/mag2009_10.htm |
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Jacqs82
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| 01/07/2010 2:56 PM |
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Thank you Joe, I shall have a look 
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map87
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| 01/09/2010 11:56 PM |
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| i had a very hard time with this part of the book . i am in my early 20s . married for 3 years and pregnant with my first. i consider myself very attractive and i work to stay that way . my husbands pornography had been a problem at the begining of our marriage but it had stopped ( i thought ) . about a week after i found out about my pregnancy i found about the pornography . it had never stopped but gotten worse .also the added problem of him calling chat lines. the problem i had with the book is that i felt like it was somehow saying it was my fault . i am very tired of feeling that way . sometimes you can give a man alll the sex and love and attention he could possibly want and it just wont satisfy . sometimes they just have their own personal problems . was this my fault ? i know about it now so now i can help with it . but what was i suposed to do then? i am having a hard time now with intimacy though . my emotions havnt quiet healed yet . i just cant seem to do it and when we do i cant get anything out of it . its like dont even feel anything anymore or i just wanna run and hide . where before were were having sex twice a day and i was loving it . i made sure my man was taken care of . it was my job and my joy in life and now i just cant . i still feel betrayed . was it really my fault ? and how do i get over this mess and get my love life back? |
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JoeMS
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| 01/10/2010 12:34 PM |
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| Map87, maybe you should repost that as its own thread. I think it deserves its own thread. I have links to resources for you and your husband. We've gone through this--and are still dealing with the repercussions. |
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Jacqs82
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| 01/12/2010 7:55 AM |
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Oh Hun, you must NOT think that this is your fault.... the addiction to pornography that you describe is a form of adultery. Do talk to your pastor / Minister about getting some prayer for healing for yourself, and someone in your church to come along side your husband and hold him accountable for his sin.
God bless xxxxx
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Scott
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| 05/01/2010 8:52 PM |
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| Reading these posts at least has allowed me know I am not alone, I am a 48 year old man of God with a super strong sex drive married to a beautiful wife who due to severe arthritis finds sex physically impossible most of the time. I have to chuckle at our friend complaining about 3 times a week, we never had that and now it is down to about once a month. My heartache comes from my deep love for my wife, my complete understanding that she just can't most of the time, but it does not change the fact that most of the time I burn with stress and other cares of the day that I know intimacy would relieve. For me, sex is a magic bullet-I feel like a completely different person after we have made love. I feel empowered, loved, affirmed, confident, on top of the world-this lasts for a day or two and then I slowly start to burn with stress inside again. She offers manual assistance sometimes, but it is not the same as the full enchilda. I take complete pleasure in bringing her to O. That is a big part of the magic bullet for me. I need physical contact with her. I yearn for intense intimacy with her and we can't. I want to be wild all the time and we can't. It is frustrating for both of us, I want her and need her so much and one of the things I need from her the most as my wife she cannot give me. I love her, she is beautiful and a great wife. |
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| 05/12/2010 6:41 PM |
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| ok guys, you are married to cold fish who don't like sex and seem unwilling to do anything about it. WHY do you stay? Is it just in the bedroom that the relationship breaks down? or are there other ares that are out of whack as well? and if so why torture yourself? Just wondering... |
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Ken G
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| 06/02/2010 11:20 AM |
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I am with Jule F. on this one. Three times a week? Maybe you should write a book! Like I tell my kids..you don't know how good you have it! |
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